You, as the guy, get to make your intentions clear from the get go. You can ask how she feels, if she wants the same thing. That’s YOUR job as a masculine guy. Our job is to be receptive, or not, to your advances. My boyfriend made it crystal clear he wanted to date me by telling me so and asking me to be his girlfriend. The last guy never made anything clear, he wasn’t straight forward about anything. If he was serious about me, he’d have made it clear. That’s the guys advantage. Celebrate that power and use it. Our advantage is being able to say yes or no to whoever approaches us. We have different roles, strengths, and abilities. Once I accepted being feminine and receptive things fell into place. Biology rules.