Yes. I don’t message men because I don’t chase men anymore. I finally learned that if a guy isn’t messaging me it’s because he’s not interested.
Many years ago I had guys pretty much flat out telling me I was desperate for messaging them.
I don’t want to take the lead anymore, I don’t want to be aggressive anymore, because it has never worked for me. Not even once.
Take the lead. Message the women you’re interested in. Continue messaging with those who respond and forget the rest. 👍