Yes I do have to be negative and use foul fucking words. It worked. I’m not a robot, so the nice and tidy “just accept you’re not right for each other” means fuck all to my very real heartbroken emotions. Getting pissed off enough at the self-torture of trying to remain friends and clinging to a relationship that was never coming back is what finally helped me let go and move on. And it worked, unlike all the worthless “just get over it” advice.