YES, Bonnie! Good for you for calling out this guy and sticking to your boundaries. I used to fall for that crap, too, and buy every line thinking it would get me closer to the relationship I wanted, when it was only getting him closer to the physical relationship HE wanted. If you want sex, just say it. We get pissed when you manipulate us and toy with our emotions, and you didn’t let him do that. It hurts like a bitch when we think we have a good one and they turn out to be self-serving. You deserve someone who gets it and you get closer every time you pass one of these numbskulls up.

I feel everyone should date and sleep with whoever they want as long as they’re up front about it. I wouldn’t mind if a guy I’m interviewing for the position of My Boyfriend was sleeping with others while he was trying to find His Girlfriend, as long as he TOLD me about it, and we use protection. I’m super picky and can barely find one guy I want to bone let alone many! For me, sex is about emotional connection. I can sit at home and get myself off all on my own. When I’m with someone I want that emotional connection. Bottom line, it’s about doing what you’re comfortable with and not letting anyone guilt or shame you into changing that. And you’re killing it! Keep up the good work, lady!

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