There ARE consequences. That horrible guilt she feels that’s making her want to confess to alleviate that guilt. That’s her punishment. That’s her consequences. She gets to live with that, carry that, be reminded of the choice she made every day for the rest of her life.

Sure, she could be a piece of shit and carry on a years long affair. That’s not the scenario I’m writing about here. I’m talking about a one off mistake. The kind that wakes you up to realizing what a great thing you have and recommitting to it, or makes you realize you really are miserable and need to get out.

Whatever your choice, your partner never needs to know about YOUR fuck up. It’s not enough to break up with them, you need to add insult to injury by letting them know you also cheated on them, all in the name of honesty? How kind.

Just end the relationship, or get your shit together, straighten the fuck up, accept what you did, accept the guilt as your lesson and punishment like an adult, and rededicate yourself to your relationship. Those are your options.