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The Allure of the Drama Queen
Please explain it to me
If you ask most men they’ll tell you they love confident, secure women. So why do they seek out and stay with women who are nothing but drama and insecurities?
Do they want to protect them? Is it thrilling to always feel on edge? Do they think jealousy proves these women love them?
Because it doesn’t. Jealousy has nothing to do with their feelings for you and everything to do with how insecure they are.
But I guess it makes them feel desired to watch women “fight” over them? Try to one-up and out-do each other to prove they know you better?
I mean, I guess that’s an ego stroke? Is that what you get out of all the passive aggressive social media posts?
Is it because you don’t have to question how they feel about you? Do you have to put in less effort with insecure women, or more? If it’s more, does that make you feel useful and needed?
Or are you lazy and choose women who’ll pursue you rather than go after someone you’re actually interested in? You’d have to take the risk that comes when it’s not a sure thing, and you’re not into that?
A woman throwing herself at you is a sure thing. It reeks of insecurity and desperation. If she hadn’t sold herself to you like it was a job…
