Signs You’re Not Ready For a Relationship

This could be why you’re single

Niki Marinis
7 min readOct 6, 2022


Katie Dutch — used with permission

We put out vibes, whether they’re subtle or in your face. People can sniff us out and know more about our own motivations than we do.

Some of us are advertising to the world we’re not ready for a relationship.

Here are some signs:

You’re rehashing a previous relationship

Baggage City = Population 1.5

You’re still fully invested in someone who is long gone. It’s hard to get on the right path when you’re hell-bent on not getting over it.

You’re busy being miserable

We all know a shitty attitude and deep-seated animosity toward the human race lay the groundwork for tons of people to chase us down and beg us to be in a relationship.

Nope. Not anytime soon.

Or ever.

You’re worried about what your friends think

“My boys will think this chick isn’t hot enough.”

“My girls with think this dude is a total loser.”

You have to ask yourself who’s going to be in this relationship: me or my friends whose opinions are more important than mine?

OH WAIT! They’re NOT!

That’s right, MY opinion is the one that matters here.

You think people are expendable

“I can run out and find another just as quickly and easily as I found this one.”

“I don’t need a man because they’re all the same: worthless, untrustworthy and (insert disparaging remark here.)”

Yikes, dude. Maybe you’ve set your sights too high or too low. A healthy medium is always good.

You’re too anxious and impatient

“If I don’t get married by the time I’m 30, I may as well choke down the cyanide and get it over with.”

Calm down. Slow your roll. Nothing says “Back the fuck up and far, far away from this person” quicker than, “I can’t go another day without being in a relationship.”



Niki Marinis

Weird Girl, thrift store owl collector, heartbreaker, lush, aspiring adult. IG: DocJohnnyFever