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Sex is Not a Prize
Sex isn’t a reward or a gift, either. It’s for you.
Sex isn’t a prize you award someone for jumping through your hoops, as if giving it will secure the committed relationship you want from them.
Sex isn’t a reward for good behavior or a bargaining tool or something you give in exchange for your love.
Sex is for you.
You should have sex because it feels good and is fun. Period.
You should enjoy your body and that of another consenting adult because you both want to have a good time.
It should be that simple.
It IS that simple but we complicate it with so much nonsense that only results in ridiculous pressure on ourselves.
Sex is not sacred.
It CAN be, but sex is not inherently sacred.
#sorrynotsorry
It’s a biological impulse to create offspring. Just like food isn’t sacred, but CAN be. We need food to exist.
A wedding cake is sacred food. Communion. Ceremony and intention is what can make food sacred.
A bologna sandwich is not sacred, but it gets the job done.
Wedding night sex can be sacred. Any sex that is a pure expression of love can be…
