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Online Dating Messages Not to Send
Just… just stop
Is online dating not working out for you?
If your pictures aren’t all vacation scenery and your truck, and your bio says more than “I’ll fill this out later,” you might be striking out because your choice of messaging openers is a shitshow.
“Hey”
Could you be more boring, basic or forgettable? Wanna stay single? Keep putting in zero effort and lemme know how that works out for you.
You can’t send short messages and expect lengthy detailed responses.
You get what you give. You want interesting, thoughtful, engaging discourse? Then you gotta start out with that.
“But Niki, you’re smart and funny, why don’t YOU pick up the conversation?”
You knocked on MY door. You better have something worth opening it for.
I don’t go around knocking on people’s doors and telling the occupants to dance for me. That’s what you’re doing when you message someone something lame, boring and trite, and expect genius and wit in return.
“What are you up to?”
See also: “How was your weekend?”
