Online dating is 30 years old. Before that there were matchmakers and dating services and personal ads. I met my first two boyfriend online, only not on a dating site but a bands bulletin board where dating was not the focus. I also met my current boyfriend, and others I’ve dated, in the real world. I online dated for 11 years and it didn’t work for me. Yet I have many, many friends who’ve met their spouses there. You gotta try every avenue and see what works for you. Sending better messages wouldn’t certainly help most.