I wouldn’t have said yes had I not felt this way. 😊 The guy needing to take the lead and make his intentions crystal clear through both words and actions speaks to a bigger truth about dating and our roles in the process. Him asking me was proof he felt the same way I did. The last guy NOT asking me was proof he didn’t feel the same way I did. People want to say, “Oh, he’s shy”, or “He doesn’t know you’re interested”, and neither of those things are true. He’s not shy, he’s just not interested. I lived my whole life believing “oh, he just doesn’t know I like him”. WRONG! And embarrassing.😂They weren’t interested. I want women to stop wasting their time chasing, pining after, and making excuses for men who don’t pursue them. Focus on yourself, first and foremost, and then pay attention to those paying attention to you. No one else. It’s when I finally made myself my first priority and became more emotionally healthy that I attracted a similar partner. Water seeks its own level. 👍 Thank you for your comment!

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