I wasn’t as free with my feelings as the last guy I dated was and I felt like it pushed him away. But the reality is he was too needy. He needed the validation of my attention in order to feel good about himself. And I gave him tons of “normal” attention and affection, but he was so used to being chased and dating equally insecure, needy, clingy, immature girls. The attention these women threw at him seeking their own validation is the kind of attention he wanted from me. But I’m not one of those insecure, needy, clingy, immature girls seeking self-worth from the interest of others. And so he ended things with me and found what he was looking for.
I’ve been working on truly understanding this and feeling the truth of it, and reading this piece was the final reassurance I needed. Thank you!