I online dated for 11 years with no success. I’m mainly back for the material.

I have tons of friends who met their spouses online. It does happen. And I’m out living my life, doing fun things, and hoping to meet someone organically.

I stopped (finally) chasing guys a few years ago. I don’t ask guys out, or even flirt or approach guys because, shocker: it’s NEVER worked for me. EVER. And I certainly don’t message guys on dating sites because, WHAT?!, it doesn’t work, either! WEIRD!

I accepted this hard truth it seems most women don’t want to accept: if a guy is interested in you, he will ask you out, message, approach, etc. If he’s not… he’s not interested in you.

I’m SO much happier with this approach and no longer filled with anxiety about whether or not he’ll call or text, is he into me or not, what can I DO to make him like me?!

NOTHING. You live your goddamn life and let the confident, brave guys who are down with your particular vibe come calling.

You get me. You get it. You’re picking up what I’m laying down. :)

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Weird Girl, thrift store owl collector, heartbreaker, lush, aspiring adult. IG: DocJohnnyFever nikimarinis@gmail.com

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