I found that once I stopped looking for anything beyond having a drink with a new person and getting to know them, dating finally became fun. It was the mission in my head: Find New Boyfriend/Future Husband that made every date ultimately feel like too huge of a loss.

I’ve always been too focused on that outcome to enjoy dating, too focused on finding a life mate to take anything less than personally. And I never once went on a date from a dating site that I was actually excited about. Nope, you know what, one. One date. Seven years ago. It lead to one of my few second dates. And then I moved too far away for him and now he’s a super successful pop artist/emoji designer. Because of course he is.

We gotta make it fun for ourselves again and having zero expectations, and no plots or plans brewing to find The Love of My Life, worked for me. And always remember, if this shit were easy we’d all be shacked up with our dream partners. The more you learn about yourself, the closer you get to finding her. You’re on your way!

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Weird Girl, thrift store owl collector, heartbreaker, lush, aspiring adult. IG: DocJohnnyFever nikimarinis@gmail.com

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