How to Outshine The Dating Competition

Six fool-proof cheat codes from The Dating Playbook

Niki Marinis
7 min readJan 22, 2024
Katie Dutch — used with permission

The guy who won’t go away, and you don’t really want him to. Isn’t it a beautiful irony when it happens?

He’s the guy you can’t shake. The one who hangs around for months, years even. Nothing ever materializes, yet he’s OK with that. He knows nothing but friendship may ever come of it, but he still wants to hang around and remain loyal.

HUH?

You’re the one calling the shots and he’s the one playing along. You’re the one keeping him at a distance and he’s the one who’s willing to stay put for as long as it takes.

You can maneuver him any which way and he likes it. In fact, he doesn’t mind letting you figure it all out because the decision’s all yours. He sits by waiting, glad even, just to be part of your life.

You’re probably thinking, “What fucking planet do you live on? Because I don’t know ANYBODY like that here on earth.”

This isn’t that common, as evinced by all the single women who don’t have anyone to date, much less anyone hanging around at her whim. I mean, I’ve had a ton of guy friends like this, but that’s me. #humblebrag

Instead, the all too common story today unfolds like this:

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Niki Marinis

Weird Girl, thrift store owl collector, heartbreaker, lush, aspiring adult. IG: DocJohnnyFever nikimarinis@gmail.com https://nikimarinis.medium.com/subscribe