He’s a lazy dude who wants to be chased. I have no interest in men who want me to pursue them. They think they want the woman to do all the work, and they’ll happily take whatever we give them… while they’re going after the woman they really want. It’s biology, man. Men pursue. I’m not contacting anyone first. Ever. Because men who are interested pursue. The amount of heartache that saves is unreal. Flowers don’t chase bees.