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Exclusive Dating Isn’t a Relationship
Don’t fall for this dating trap
When two people agree to be exclusive, they’re agreeing to only date and have sex with each other. This can be the stage right before he commits, but it often isn’t. It can be a trap.
While women tend to date looking for commitment and relationships, men often date for fun, companionship and attention. Finding a life partner may not be the first priority.
Guys don’t like to share, but they’re also competitive by nature. When you agree to exclusivity you remove all of his competition.
He can kick back and rest easy. He has you locked down and your options closed. The chase is over and he can settle into a safe routine.
Agreeing to exclusivity too soon
So many women agree to be exclusive with a guy early on, often after only a few dates. Then in a month or two they’re talking about how it didn’t work out.
You’d think agreeing to be exclusive would make guys feel safe, but it does the opposite.
When you agree to be exclusive right out the gate, before you even really know the dude, you’re not looking out for your own heart and emotions.
