Dress For Yourself, Not Your Date

Or anyone else, for that matter

Katie Dutch — used with permission

I was going to an event and expecting to see a certain someone there, so I chose my outfit with him in mind.

What might he be impressed by? What might he think looked great on me? What were the perfect accessories and hairstyle to make a lasting impression of how great I am?

I put together a fab outfit I felt super hot in, and headed out the door. When I got to the event, I learned he wasn’t attending.

I immediately felt like I’d put in all this work for nothing. That all my effort had been wasted and I was now in a bad, disappointed, let down mood.

Stop the presses.

What?

What kind of bullshit is this? Did I just get dressed for a man instead of myself?

I got dressed with expectations beyond my own satisfaction and look at the result: disappointment.

Fuck that.

If I had dressed for myself it wouldn’t have mattered if he was there or not. I made him the focal point of my evening AND my appearance.

Gross.

It’s important to look and feel your best for YOU and no one else.