Drama Isn’t Happiness
Good relationships are boring.
If you feel like your relationship is “missing something,” maybe it’s drama. And maybe you’re not “missing” it.
Drama isn’t love. Drama isn’t happiness. Drama is a sparkly distraction that fills the void where the emotional connection should be.
And that’s why your relationship crumbles without drama, because there’s nothing at the heart of it. You’re just two people who hang out and do stuff together. Nothing more.
One or both of you are dead inside and you keep upping the drama trying to fill that ever deepening hole.
But it’s tinsel, it’s glitter, it sparkles and fades and you are a shell. A shell who may never realize or accept that you’re with someone who isn’t right for you.
Ron Swanson gets it:
“Live your life how you want, but don’t confuse drama with happiness.”
Love isn’t fireworks and butterflies and gleeful giddiness.
DRAMA is fireworks and butterflies and gleeful giddiness.
Drama is when you can turn your feelings for someone on and off like a light switch. Drama is manipulating someone to get what you want.
Love isn’t fireworks and butterflies and gleeful giddiness.
DRAMA is fireworks and butterflies and gleeful giddiness.
Drama is when you can turn your feelings for someone on and off like a light switch. Drama is manipulating someone to get what you want.
Drama is dating someone in order to get something: status, validation, power, money, gifts, a place to live, a boost to your ego, to rub it in someone (everyone’s) face, to hurt someone, to attempt to lessen the loneliness (it’ll only make it worse).
Love is quiet and simple and clear and vibrant. It’s solid and stable and freeing. Love is calming, gentle, uplifting, and a long lasting high, not a quick fix.
Love is the walk on the beach, while drama is the county fair. And when was the last time the county fair was really worth the price of admission?
Get out there. Get vulnerable. Get real. And get “boring.”
