Don’t Ask Him Where Your Relationship is Going Because He’s Telling You the Whole Time

You just don’t like the answer

Niki Marinis
5 min readFeb 9, 2023
Katie Dutch — used with permission

You don’t need to ask him where this is going. He’s telling you all the time.

If he’s not asking you out often, he’s not interested in a relationship. If he only texts you when he’s bored at work, he’s not interested in a relationship. If you only hear from him in the middle of the night, he’s not interested in anything but sex.

This is also why you don’t only date him, you date a bunch of guys all at the same time instead of being a serial monogamist. Let the best man fucking win, damn it.

What has this guy done to deserve your exclusivity? What has he done to prove you should cut off all your other options? Why are you so aggressive about getting him to fill this position instead of letting him campaign for it?

You pressing him for a verbal answer isn’t going to make him want to be with you if he doesn’t already. It isn’t going to make you look like a confident, sexy woman, either.

A confident, sexy woman is paying attention to who is paying attention to her. Period. If it’s not him, then he’s low on the list, or out of the running all together.



Niki Marinis

Weird Girl, thrift store owl collector, heartbreaker, lush, aspiring adult. IG: DocJohnnyFever