An abuser needs your subscription for abuse to work. He or she needs you to believe that you deserve it — otherwise you would leave. They’ll play every card in the book convincing you that it’s you — not them — who fucked up. If you respond to an emotional play, they’ll get “woe is me” victim on you. If they can intimidate you into it, they will. If they can hold your home or their heart over your head, they will.
DAD. I knew he was (IS) emotionally abusive but I’m only recently realizing over the past few days just how bad it really is. THIS is my life. THIS is why I don’t know how to be in a relationship. THIS is why I have so much self-doubt, feel worthless, feel like I’m a bad person, and that everything I do is wrong. Because THIS is how he continues to treat ALL of us.
I DON’T DESERVE THIS.
Don’t accept this behavior. Not from ANYONE.