Are you paranoid or is it justified to violate your partner's trust? — God, it’s so tempting. He left his laptop open to his email and Facebook. He fell asleep in one room and his phone is in the next. He left town to visit family for a few days and you want to rifle through his closet. You’re dying to dig through…

Good relationships are boring. — If you feel like your relationship is “missing something,” maybe it’s drama. And maybe you’re not “missing” it. Drama isn’t love. Drama isn’t happiness. Drama is a sparkly distraction that fills the void where the emotional connection should be. And that’s why your relationship crumbles without drama, because there’s nothing…

You’re more than you realize — You’re a big cosmic mirror projecting every emotion, every fear and insecurity, into The Universe where others pick up on it and feed on the energy. If you fear they’ll cheat on you, they probably will. If you fear they’ll leave you, they more than likely will. If you’re suspicious…

If they didn’t ask, they won’t listen. How to curb your need to control — I’m the queen of unsolicited advice. How did I earn this unenviable title? Well, it’s a carefully crafted method of assuming that if you’re talking to me about your love life, you want my opinion on everything you’re doing wrong. Oops! You’ll be shocked to hear that it often falls…

It’s fun but is it fulfilling? — It’s often stated that following your passion is actually bad advice when it comes to your career. The same can be true for love. Passion is fantastic. I’d argue it’s a relationship requirement. Who wants to be with someone who’s plain old vanilla? Well, some of you. …

Self-sabotage isn’t a good look. Self-love is. — You’ve registered on the latest dating app and your bio reads like this: Lonely, single and desperate with issues, seeking any man who wouldn’t mind putting up with a spineless hag. I’m knee-deep in codependence and FOMO because I can’t be alone. I enjoy cold, empty nights by myself, drenching…

All those issues you’re ignoring by jumping into yet another dead-end relationship? All gonna still be there with open arms when it ends. They don’t go away. Relationships don’t cure them. New romantic partners don’t fix your shit. They just cover it up. You’re robbing yourself of any real growth…

How to spot, deal with, and avoid them. — The ego is a tragic thing. It shatters faster than it can be built. It’s an institution for which there is no proper schooling and a place where delusions thrive like mildew on wet garbage. They can become bigger than an elephant in an outhouse. People give in to their egos the same way an abandoned…

Reporting live from the murder scene of your dating hopes and dreams — Oh man! I found a folder of old drafts of my online dating story ridiculousness from before Covid times! Because the Good Lord knows I don’t fuck with online dating anymore. So please enjoy this back-log from The Before Time, in the Long Long Ago. Guy on Match who is…