Sure signs he’s serious about you

Katie Dutch — used with permission

Women are wasting their time, breath and effort on men who have no intention of committing. Not now, and not this century.

I’ve gotten quite a few questions from women asking if I think their men are ready to commit and every story has the same disappointing, anti-climactic problem:

The guy has issues.

He’s lazy (in EVERY aspect). He’s on social media with pics of him boozing it up with other women. He’s out clubbing every night with his boys. He’s unsure about dating them because he’s still jaded from his previous bad relationships, etc.

I’m sure the women involved…


You just don’t like the answer

Katie Dutch — used with permission

You don’t need to ask him where this is going. He’s telling you all the time.

If he’s not asking you out often, he’s not interested in a relationship. If he only texts you when he’s bored at work, he’s not interested in a relationship. If you only hear from him in the middle of the night, he’s not interested in anything but sex.

This is also why you don’t only date him, you date tons of guys all at the same time. Let the best man fucking win, damn it.

What has this guy done to deserve your exclusivity…


And what you can do to change it

Katie Dutch — used with permission

Can you, in fact, have both narcissist traits and doormat tendencies? Hi! Nice to meet you. I’m Niki, and the answer is yes. My brother and I both have this delightful combination marinating in our personalities.

AND we’re both Gemini’s. What are the chances? Ain’t fate a bitch.

I think I’m a little too good for things like a regular job or housework, yet I let friends, acquaintances, strangers, and family members walk all over me and blame myself for why they’re doing it.

It’s a topsy-turvy world.

I was telling my therapist about the latest, and I’m sure often-repeated…


It’s tired. What else ya got?

Katie Dutch — used with permission

Last night at dinner my girlfriend and I were trading our latest war stories from the front lines of the dating hellscape. As is the plight of many single women whose friends have settled down, we get plenty of unsolicited advice about how we can meet Mr. Right.

One of the most common pieces of advice is “Put yourself out there!”

What does that even mean?

We aren’t shut-ins. We don’t have bed sores from sitting on our couches eating Cheetos for weekends on end. We’re fashionable, educated, funny, we shower and smell nice. …


And how to improve your odds of a second one

Katie Dutch — used with permission

There’s a common lament among men in the dating world.

“I really like this girl. We went out last week and the date went so well. I thought we really hit it off and had a profound connection. We had an amazing time, and the chemistry was through the roof. I haven’t heard from her. I don’t think she wants anything to do with me. What should I do?”

Dude hit the nail on the head because two weeks later it was obvious that first date would be the last. …


If you don’t trust your partner, don’t be with them

Katie Dutch — used with permission

God, it’s so tempting. He left his laptop open to his email and Facebook. He fell asleep in one room and his phone is in the next. He left town to visit family for a few days and you want to rifle through his closet. You’re dying to dig through his business.

Before you dive in you might want to think twice.

Not only will snooping make you look like a raving lunatic to your unsuspecting boyfriend, you’ll drive yourself crazy and do irreparable damage to your relationship.

What are you looking for?

Before you go scouring through his text messages it’s important to ask…


And how to get better

Katie Dutch — used with permission

Some people are good at relationships. They meet potential partners with ease wherever they go and actually enjoy online dating. They encounter emotionally available people and slide right into monogamous relationships like it ain’t no thang.

Then there’s the rest of us. Mystified by how to turn a dating profile into a boyfriend, or how to meet a guy who’s not a total fuck-up.

You feel like you’re trapped in an ’80s movie, destined to be on the outside looking in at all the couples with their hands in the back pockets of each other’s acid-washed jeans.

“How do they…


This might be why you’re single

Katie Dutch — used with permission

We put out vibes, whether they’re subtle or in your face. People can sniff us out and know more about our own motivations than we do.

Some of us are advertising to the world we’re not ready for a relationship.

Here are the signs:

You’re too busy rehashing a previous relationship

Baggage City = Population 1.5

You’re still fully invested in someone who is long gone. It’s hard to get on the right path when you’re hell-bent on not getting over it.

You’re too busy being miserable

We all know a shitty attitude and a deep-seated animosity towards the human race lays the groundwork for scores of people to chase us down…


Three reasons you got ghosted

Katie Dutch — used with permission

You went on a great date. You’ve played it cool but you still haven’t heard from him. Why hasn’t he called? The date went well, didn’t it?

There are three reasons that guy isn’t calling.

There was no mutual connection

Within minutes of meeting up with him for your first date, you were overcome with excitement. He was absolutely perfect and gave you butterflies. After an amazing date and a quick kiss good night you were in love and convinced that he was “the one.”

Unfortunately, that first date was also your last and you haven’t heard from him since. Why?

Quite simply, he didn’t…


What we can do to make them an endangered species

Katie Dutch — used with permission

Do you know why there are so many douchebags in the world? It’s because women keep sleeping with them. Seriously.

If you give your dog a treat every time he takes a dump on the rug, expect to live in a rank house. Sleeping with someone you know is scum reinforces bad behavior in the same way.

I’m sure there are a number of reasons women do this, but I stumbled onto an interesting one over drinks with a friend.

She’s hot, she’s smart, she’s funny and kind. She has a handle on life in a lot of ways, owns…

Niki Marinis

Weird Girl, thrift store owl collector, heartbreaker, lush, aspiring adult. IG: DocJohnnyFever nikimarinis@gmail.com

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