It’s not that big of a mystery. Guys pursue hard in the beginning, so don’t use that as a yardstick to measure him against throughout the relationship.

We’d die of exhaustion if we were in a state of “falling in love” all the time. It ebbs and flows. Sometimes he’s hot, sometimes he’s taking a break and recharging. He’ll always be back hot if you let him be.

You can’t expect a guy to be “on” 24/7. He has a life too, doesn’t he? Hopefully? And a job? That alone might be a good reason why he texts you less…

Can you, in fact, have both narcissist traits and doormat tendencies? Hi! Nice to meet you. I’m Niki, and the answer is yes. My brother and I both have this delightful combination marinating in our personalities.

AND we’re both Gemini’s. What are the chances? Ain’t fate a bitch.

I think I’m a little too good for things like a regular job or housework, yet I let friends, acquaintances, strangers, and family members walk all over me and blame myself for why they’re doing it.

It’s a topsy turvy world.

I was telling my therapist about the latest, and I’m sure…

If you feel like your relationship is “missing something,” maybe it’s drama. And maybe you’re not “missing” it.

Drama isn’t love. Drama isn’t happiness. Drama is a sparkly distraction that fills the void where the emotional connection should be.

And that’s why your relationship crumbles without drama, because there’s nothing at the heart of it. You’re just two people who hang out and do stuff together. Nothing more.

One or both of you are dead inside and you keep upping the drama trying to fill that ever deepening hole.

But it’s tinsel, it’s glitter, it sparkles and fades and you’re…

What I’m about to say may shock you.

Some men only want you for sex.

WHAT?!

I know. Crazy, right? They look at you like a juicy steak that needs to be flipped, tenderized, and flambéed. They don’t care how sweet or smart you are, or how much value you bring to the table. They want to brand you like a cow with their initials square on your ass.

OWNED

Here are some signs he only wants to bone.

He flat out said so

Fortunately, most of the time these guys will tell you flat out they’re only looking for a good time. Or they…

My parents always warned me not to date starving artists, bartenders and guys who don’t pay their bills on time. I know, I know, we shouldn’t stereotype but there’s a reason the stereotype exists in the first place.

I was told from an early age to always check the guy’s bank book (Does anyone besides my dad even have a bank book anymore?) And to assess whether he’s kind to the wait staff.

But despite that sage advice there are a few other types who can blindside you and some of us had to learn the hard way.

Here are…

Whether they’re romantic, co-dependent, or superficial, toxic relationships rely on some type of reward or recognition. Except the reward is more bad behavior and unjustifiable bullshit you know you can do without.

You’re indoctrinated in a stubborn brainwashing system where you can’t let the person or relationship go because some catastrophe will ensue and force you to break your patterns. People don’t like to change because it’s hard and involves breaking “unbreakable” patterns.

Our lives center around habits. We can find the support we need to change our habits through seminars, self-help books, hypnosis, and psychologists. …

We all have our beliefs. Some serve us, some don’t. Our life experiences often reinforce these self-limiting beliefs. A cycle of self-sabotage, especially when it comes to affairs of the heart.

Limiting beliefs are assumptions you’ve decided are true. But they may not be true at all. They’re blocking you from giving and receiving love.

Our ego holds onto these beliefs making us think we’re protecting ourselves. But the reality is we’re living in fear.

When we have a belief we subconsciously look for evidence to support it, and that’s what keeps us stuck.

1. Good men are rare.

Or they’re taken, gay, are jerks…

I’m really good with relationships. That’s why I was single for 11 years. You’re probably wondering how I accomplished this, so I put together a list of dating tips to ensure you find, and keep, the significant other of your dreams.

Go through each other’s phones

If possible, do this while they’re asleep beside you or right in the next room so you have the added risk of getting caught. It adds excitement and passion.

Dishonesty is the best policy

Lie whenever you can. Lie about small inconsequential things, first. This will throw them off. Eventually get so good at lying that you move on to more extreme lies. …