5 Must-Be-Squashed Confidence Killers

Drop these zeros and make yourself the hero

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Katie Dutch — used with permission


We’ve all got someone looking over our shoulder who doesn’t believe in what we’re doing. Someone who tells us who we are is never going to grant us the much needed acceptance we “must have” in order to be somebody in this world.

The need for external validation

When we buy into other people’s naysayer bullshit, we’re letting them take the wheel and steer us into a ditch. We’re giving other people all the power we don’t realize we’re taking away from ourselves, and it’s impossible to feel worthy, secure and confident when we give others our reins.


I guarantee we hate ourselves more than our worst enemies. And as a general rule, we are our own worst enemy because we can see things others don’t.

Negative past relationships

We’ve all gotten involved with people who are absolute shits. We wish we’d take the long detour and missed the boat instead of sticking around and having to live through the misery.

Misinterpreted and flawed choices

We really, really like this person and we don’t care how wrong they are for us. Because in the long run we trust they’ll do the right thing even when we know, in a million fucking years, they won’t.

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Weird Girl, thrift store owl collector, heartbreaker, lush, aspiring adult. IG: DocJohnnyFever nikimarinis@gmail.com

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